The expression «finding oneself» it refers to knowing youreself. Finding out who you are and what you want. It means, ask yourself question about what is important to you. That is to say, what you like or dislike and how you feel on different things.
Futhermore, we can talk about the term « journey of self-discovery ». It refers to a travel, a pilgrimage, or series of events whereby a person attempts to determine how they feel, personally, about spiritual issues or priorities, rather than following the opinions of family, friends, neighborhood or peer pressure.
However the fact of finding oneself is different for everyone because it depends of the people. Indeed, the desire of finding oneself can have different origins, with different outcomes. For exemple, people can try to findoneself because of the coming of age. So it’s about reaching maturity, from childhood to adulthood. Or their aims is simply to try to be happier.
So we might ask, what are the different ways to find oneself ?
Firstly, we can mention the case of the main character in the movie, Into the Wild. Into the Wild is a biographical drama film directed by Sean Penn in 2007. It is an adaptation of the 1996 non-fiction book of the same name by Jon Krakauer based on the travels of Christopher McCandless across North America and his life spent in the Alaskan wilderness in the early 1990s.
In this movie, the main character try to find himself by cutting of to his previous life and by lead an introspection. He rejects all kind of materialism and he wants to live in harmony with the wilderness.
According to him, his quest is neverending. It implies to moving and discovering all the wild nature, alone. However, in his case, his way of thinking and his rejection of society are too extrem. Futhermore, he tries to convince his friends that his way of life is an example to follow. The main character does an inner struggle and lives a life of helter skelter. So we can conclude that, for some people, the fact of finding oneself involves a total abandonment of the past and breaking with the former self and conformity. It deals with a pursuit of freedom and advendure. However, the fact of finding oneself has certain limits to not exceed before it becomes dangerous.
Finally, let’s move to the Woody Allen film. Whatever Works is a 2009 American comedy film. Boris Yelnikoff is a misanthropic chess teacher and former Columbia professor. Divorced, he eschews human contact except for his friends and students, criticizing everyone he meets for not matching him intellectually.Boris Yelnikoff is a misanthropic chess teacher and former Columbia professor. Divorced, he eschews human contact except for his friends and students, criticizing everyone he meets for not matching him intellectually. He changes when he he meets Melodie, a simpleminded 21-year-old, lying on his doorstep. This story led him to adopt a very pragmatic philosophy away from principles that animated him « whatever works » or « as long as it works. ». So, according to this movie, the fact of finding oneself works by living in the community and talking with others people, even if they seem very very different from us. For exemple, Boris who is neurotic learns things about life thanks to Melodie, who is his complete opposite. Same thing for Melodie’s parents. They learn things about theirself, they completely change their lives and become truly happy.
To conclude, the willingness to try to finding oneself depends on the individual. Its origin, its purpose or its outcome is different from each person. There are different ways to find oneself and the best is the one which fits best according to our personality.